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As much as I would love to be above the general societal expectation of perfection, I can't deny that it infiltrates aspects of my life regardless of how much I'd like to pretend I am above it. Take feminism for instance which is a significant part of my life, being a woman who believes she deserves fundamental human rights and all. I can't help but try to be a 'perfect feminist' and this sometimes, aside from having unrealistic expectations means I feel guilty for admitting to wanting things that fall out of this idea of feminism.

An example of this is chivalry:

Of recent I have realised that I like a certain level of chivalry in a relationship, I like to be on the inner side of the pavement, I like the small of my back being held as I walk in and I like being treated with respect at all times, all these are small acts of chivalry which I appreciate. I however, sometimes am not quick to admit that I appreciate chivalry because it can be conceived as demeaning oneself to boost the male ego. I don't agree with this, I feel chivalry was conceived out of respect and most times has the best of intentions, I am not denying that it can sometimes have the opposite effect but sometimes I wonder if it is somewhat archaic to want to be treated like a girl in an old Hollywood film, only difference being that I am typically denim-clad, without gloves and of course black.

I think chivalry has a place in feminism because they both ultimately promote respect, what do you all think? Let me know what you think of this in the comments section :) This is something id like to address further in future posts.

Jasmine x


  1. This is a wonderful article. I completely agree with you on this one, I don’t think there’s any girl who wouldn’t appreciate chivalry. I personally think it’s important in a relationship because you feel both loved and respected. However, most people tend to misunderstand what chivalry really is, especially with relation to feminism because like you said they see it as demeaning oneself to feed a man’s ego. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I want my chivalry. I want somebody to hold my hand and open the door for me, it’s not like I don’t have hands, It’s just one of the little things, it at least shows that he’s paying attention. Opening the door by yourself doesn’t automatically make you feminist. I believe feminism can be manifested even where there is chivalry, infact it only make sense that someone willing to be so chivalrous is also respectful to women.


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