DOES CHIVALRY HAVE A PLACE IN FEMINISM?
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As much as I would love to be above the general societal expectation of perfection, I can't deny that it infiltrates aspects of my life regardless of how much I'd like to pretend I am above it. Take feminism for instance which is a significant part of my life, being a woman who believes she deserves fundamental human rights and all. I can't help but try to be a 'perfect feminist' and this sometimes, aside from having unrealistic expectations means I feel guilty for admitting to wanting things that fall out of this idea of feminism.
An example of this is chivalry:
Of recent I have realised that I like a certain level of chivalry in a relationship, I like to be on the inner side of the pavement, I like the small of my back being held as I walk in and I like being treated with respect at all times, all these are small acts of chivalry which I appreciate. I however, sometimes am not quick to admit that I appreciate chivalry because it can be conceived as demeaning oneself to boost the male ego. I don't agree with this, I feel chivalry was conceived out of respect and most times has the best of intentions, I am not denying that it can sometimes have the opposite effect but sometimes I wonder if it is somewhat archaic to want to be treated like a girl in an old Hollywood film, only difference being that I am typically denim-clad, without gloves and of course black.
I think chivalry has a place in feminism because they both ultimately promote respect, what do you all think? Let me know what you think of this in the comments section :) This is something id like to address further in future posts.