Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. – Robert Holden.

Hi there, I want to tell you a story about myself to help you get a little insight on the topic above; kind of about self love. 

When I was younger, much younger, I wasn’t a big fan of myself, I didn’t like that I wasn’t as outgoing as my peers, I thought I wasn’t smart enough,  I could not dance, I was extremely quiet, I read a lot and people thought it was weird, so I started to pretend. Now, some of you may conclude that I have really low self esteem. Maybe, maybe not. Bottom line is, I wasn’t a happy person and I was very hard on myself. I pushed myself too hard in order to fit in. I could go on and on, probably give you some details, but I think you get the picture. Stay tuned and you might learn more. 

Fast forward to now, a couple years later, I don’t pretend, I still cannot dance, I still read a lot of books, I’m still very quiet but the difference is that, I LOVE MYSELF. How?, Well, it all started with this journey of self discovery, I knew deep down that I was special and that I didn’t need to fit in. I just needed to figure out how special I was. I needed to ask myself “Who am I really?”.  The journey however was unexpected, it is a continuous process. I didn’t wake up one morning and conclude that I was in love with myself and there are some days where I still doubt my abilities, but its all part of the process. It doesn’t happen overnight. You’re probably itching to know what I did, so here goes;

For starters, I blocked out negativity, I started to do the things that I like even when other people judged my choices or suggested that it was boring. I read, I wrote, I did the things that made me comfortable, I even took a personality test and eventually found out that I am an Introvert, that explained my quiet nature and made me more comfortable with myself. It was honestly a relief to learn that there was such a thing as introversion. Then, I started to openly motivate people, it’s a very big deal because I was never the type of person to voice out my opinions to anyone, let alone random people on the internet. But, I think that getting to know and love myself gave me a special kind of confidence. “Just Do You and block out the negativity” - that was sort of my subconscious motto. Don’t worry about what people liking you or about what they are going to say, because people will always have something to say no matter what. 

Always remember, “you are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success—none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here. – Ram Dass”. Learn about who you are and love yourself. No one can make you happier than you can make yourself if you allow it. Knowing who you are, loving who you are and embracing who you are going to become in the next minute, hour, week, etc. is only going to make you happier. Self love is so important. Loving anything is impossible until you fall in love with who you are. You’re going to radiate positivity because you love who you are. But now I'm itching to know ; did you have any problems loving yourself because of peer pressure?, do you love yourself?.

-A.O Martina