THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN AN EXPERIENCE AND PERSPECTIVE

      


There is a popular saying that "experience is the best teacher", we either learn from them or ignore them. But another thing that we may not be doing with our experiences is creating a new perspective. Our past experiences and even our present situations shape the way we look at people and the world around us.  Here's a story:


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After I graduated from secondary school and didn't get into university right after, I felt defeated, I was broken and sad. I thought I was the dumbest person in the world. I knew in my heart that I had done everything right and even better every time I tried, but nothing changed. I spent most of my days depressed and my nights crying myself to sleep. I didn't think there was anything else that I could do,  I felt like my life was not moving forward and because of this negative mindset, I didn't make any effort to do anything else. I didn't realize that I needed to have a more positive outlook on life.
When I had finally came out of what I now call a temporary depression, I decided that things were going to be a lot different and that I was going to find something special to do instead of worrying about school or my future,  I decided that I was first going to make the "now" perfect. I changed my mindset and because of that, everything around me started to change. I started reading a lot of self help and motivational books and I learned a lot from books like; "Taking the risk - Ben Carson", "Think Big - Ben Carson", "Crucial confrontations - Kerry Patterson" and many others. These books helped me set proper goals, become more productive, positive and determined, they basically opened a new part of my mind. I also read a lot of fiction and auto-biographies, the idea was to spend my time doing something reasonable and reading came easy for me, but the difference this time was that I was reading for the health of my mind. "Who knew that skimming through a combination of letters tattooed on processed trees while hallucinating vividly could be life changing ?".
     

Through reading, I started to get inspiration to do more, I started writing again, for myself and for others, I started inspiring people, I began to truly believe that I am capable of doing anything that I want to do, all it took was a little determination to change the state of my mind. I was now going to be a positive minded person, always looking for the good in very situation and helping others find it too.
My experience changed my perspective, I like to think that if I went to university right after secondary school, there are a lot of things that I do now that I wouldn't have been doing, there are also some new priorities I have because of that change. My life, my habits, the way I think and behave, the way I speak, my relationship with myself and the people around me have changed to a great degree and I attribute this change, this growth, to an experience that I thought was going to be the end of my dreams. But now, my dreams are even bigger, it goes beyond academic achievement, now, when I look at what I want to do in future, what I want to become, I realize how different, how special it is, from what I wanted before this experience.


So, when you go through something,  don't just wait for the time to pass, or to get what you want, because the things you do between where you are now and where you want to be, help you achieve and become more than you ever dreamed, you have to look at the bright side, because no matter how bad an experience or situation may seem, there's a whole lot you can learn from. Just relax, believe in yourself, be happy, look for something amazing to do while you wait for something evening more amazing, change your perspective, make it a more positive one.
Have you had any experience that changed your perspective?, did it have a positive or negative effect on you?, I’d love to read about it in the comments. 

   -A.O Martina.