SOLITUDE ; And why it’s necessary.



   “In solitude there is healing. Speak to your heart and soul. Listen to yourself. Sometimes in the absence of noise, we find answers.”

   A lot of people tend to misunderstand the idea behind solitude. When you hear the word, the first thing that comes to mind is that it is a state of being lonely, I used to be one of those people, I really didn’t think there was any difference between solitude and loneliness, 2 years ago, I thought solitude was an excuse that lonely people like me use to justify their loneliness. But after seeing the word over a million times (I’m kinda exaggerating), I decided to do some research. I found that loneliness is the poverty of self, hence we should never be lonely; being lonely doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re alone or by yourself, although that is what it implies. It is possible to feel and be lonely even around people.
Solitude on the other hand, is the richness of self - a time spent alone so that you can be in tune with your inner self. Solitude is necessary.

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There are a lot of things that can be achieved from solitude, it isn’t a time to ponder upon your worries or problems and feel miserable about them. In solitude, you discover who you are, you think deeply & sincerely, breathe freely, you find inner peace because you’re having a moment with yourself, you’re basically exploring all the depths of your mind, and subconsciously breaking the boundaries of your thoughts, this is how new life changing ideas 💡 are formed, your collection of thoughts and ideas are curated and rearranged to make sense of the present and the future.

In solitude, you realize that you’re never alone, that your soul in its brightness and belonging connects you intimately with the rhythm of the universe and for me personally, with God. You have respect for your own individuality and difference. You realize that your soul is unique, that you have a special purpose, that behind the facade of your life, there is something beautiful, good and eternal happening. And it’s understandable that you need to be by yourself to realize and accept these things.


Solitude also positively affects your relationship with yourself and others. When you learn to love your own company, you become a lot more careful about who you spend your time with. Hold company with yourself so sacred that even when you’re alone, you are whole.
So, from now on, give yourself a few minutes out of your busy day, breathe, relax, find your happy place, a place that can spark your creativity ⚡️ (for me, it’s my table or my bed or anywhere I can find Pringles 😁) and just be still, FORGET YOUR WORRIES and let your mind think freely.
  When I’m faced with a difficult situation or a problem that seems impossible to solve, I sit and say a little prayer in my head and just breathe, after I’ve done some free thinking 💭, I mean serious free thinking, I think about the most random things at first, and then I focus on the problem ahead, then I start to get ideas and suddenly that problem doesn’t seem hard to solve because I’m no longer stressing over it or thinking in a stress induced environment, because I am at peace. (of course, it doesn’t always work right way, it may take a couple hours or even weeks to find an appropriate solution, but it works, and it keep me from having unnecessary anxiety). I’m letting my brain do all the work and my creativity is looking for ways to solve the problem.

For quiet, sensitive souls or introverts in general, solitude is the golden thread that unites us with our inner world. We need quiet to connect the dots in our constellation of thoughts.
 If you learnt something new from this article or you want to share some of the benefits you’ve seen from practicing solitude, and even if you have some questions, leave a comment, as always, I’m looking forward to it.

  “ The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind. -Albert Einstein.”


-A.O MARTINA